Psychologist
For (inner) peace, freedom, and self-compassion.
Are you empathic?
Are you the one who cares for everyone, senses what they need, and keeps everything running smoothly?
It shows you are strong. Empathic. Patient. You are deeply understanding of everyone. And you are likely the one others leans on emotionally.
But perhaps you have become so used to adapting, caring and putting the needs of others first, that at times you don't quite know what your own needs or desires are anymore.
And from the outside, everything might look perfectly fine. Because you function so well.
But on the inside, you may yearn for more calm, inner peace and relaxation.
If that resonates with you, you are in the right place.
When attuning to others demands too much
You are probably reading this because you're experiencing some problems or complaints right now. Possible complaints with the above image may include:
- Taking on responsibility for the feelings of others. (As you don't want them to feel hurt etc.)
- You might stay silent at times just to keep the peace.
- You might have difficulty setting boundaries, out of fear of conflict.
- At times you can't name your own needs and boundaries anymore.
- You might have a powerful 'inner critic' (being stern with yourself).
- When someone shifts in energy, you might worry about having said something to upset them.
- You might feel guilt or panic when you set boundaries that upset others.
This may lead to
- Burnout
- Perfectionism and fear of failure.
- Unexplained physical tension.
- Fear and phobias.
Reconnecting with yourself
The way out of 'fawning' (to be overly attuned to others) does not require working harder. It requires understanding that this was once the only option. And finding out what you truly need yourself.
And I believe you can do this: find your way back to yourself, feel the same empathy and compassion for yourself that you grant to others, and thus evolve into who you truly are. You would allow yourself to live more from the heart—both toward yourself and the world around you—leaving behind panic, guilt, and inner turmoil.
This will be empowering you to consciously and calmly design your own life with compassion, in a way that truly aligns with who you are.
Below you can see an overview of how I could guide you on your path. Treatments are reimbursed in whole or in part from your supplementary health insurance. See rates for more info.
Video calling / Online therapy
Online therapy doesn't have to feel distant at all. Together, we will create a warm safe space. All you need is a comfortable and cosy place at home and a warm cup of tea or coffee. And maybe a notebook. The depth and sincerity of our connection will be the same as when you sit across me in my practice.
Sometimes I have a short waiting list.
I am available for sessions on Fridays and Saturdays.
Do you want to make direct contact or consult? I really like to hear from you:
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Rates
Complete or partial reimbursement through the supplementary (aanvullende) health care package in The Netherlands.
Click on 'Prices' for more information.
